Let’s talk about relationships. Long distance relationships.
Barf-a-roni Rex, amiright?
Sure, Jake and I live a mere 8-hour drive apart. We aren’t separated by thousands of miles, or an ocean, or a war. (<< Kudos to everyone in one of these relationships, because you’re amazing.)
But you wanna know something? It still sucks.
Jake and I have been together for about 4 years, 8 months (but who’s counting?). In this time, between us, we’ve lived in five different cities.
And you know how they say, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”? Well I’d like to make an amendment to that statement:
Absence makes the heart grow pissed the hell off, and pretty freaking lonely ifyaknowwhatimean.
So Jake and I have put together our favorite tips for maintaining an awesome relationship even when you can’t see each other’s sweet faces every day.
1. Enjoy your time together…
Chances are, you don’t get a lot of it. Do fun things. Eat yummy food. Explore.
2. … But also enjoy your time apart.
Do fun things. Eat yummy food. Explore.
There are lots of amazing, wonderful people out there other than your significant other. Instead of pining away for each other all the time, have some freaking fun.
(But you aren’t allowed to get pissed if your partner does the same thing. I know, it sucks to see your hot man/woman having fun without you, but swallow your FOMO and get ova it.)
3. Use “I” statements.
They’re much less accusatory. Oh, it’s worth mentioning that ”I think you’re being a huge douchewad right now” doesn’t count. I’ve tried it.
4. Be affectionate.
Hugging, kissing, hand-holding, lap-sitting, sex-ing, licking, sucking, biting… Whatever you’re into. Show each other some physical love when you do get to spend time together, because those times are likely few and far between.
5. Be okay with arguments.
Disagreements are okay. Actually, they’re kind of awesome, since life would be oh so boring without them. And, in a long distance relationship, disagreements are going to happen. They come from some kind of miscommunication, usually involving texting. When you’re arguing, don’t say dicky things that you can’t take back, don’t bring up past arguments, and don’t use nasty words. Fight fair, people.
6. Use technology…
You’re probably on the computer all the damn time anyway. You might as well have a nice face-to-face convo with your sexy man or woman.
7. …But don’t stay too connected.
If you’re texting, calling, and talking all day long, your conversations will be kind of… lame. There’s only so many ways you can ask another person “what are you doing?” and “how’s your day going?” before wanting to rip your face off.
8. Hang with your significant other’s fam, if possible.
We’re all scarily like our parents, so hanging out with your SO’s parents is basically like hanging out with 50% of them. But don’t try anything fresh, no matter how MILFy or DILFy the ‘rents are. That makes things weird.
9. Don’t let your relationship impede on your good time.
As long as you’re honest, going out with friends and partying a little bit is great. And it gets your mind off of how much you miss your sexy girlfriend (cough me cough). Bonus: You’ll have something to talk about (other than what you ate for dinner).
10. Have virtual dates.
Watch the same TV show. Eat dinner “together” (see #1). Do things as a couple, even if you’re miles away. Again, it gives you stuff to chat about. Love.
IN THE COMMENTS:
Tell me your favorite relationship tip, long distance or otherwise.
P.S. Jake and I are looking at a 5 week stretch without seeing each other, and I’m real bummed. So thanks for reading this post filled with pictures of us. It makes me feel better. This blog really is like therapy to me sometimes. But a lot cheaper. HEYYYY.